ABOUT DADDY IN CHARGE

I was asked by a boy to share some thoughts about Daddy in Charge as he thought other boys would enjoy hearing a Daddy’s perspective.  Jut to be clear, I use the term boy to mean a younger adult male interested in an older man.  Also, these are my thoughts only and should not be taken as how things have to be.  That’s for each to decide for themselves and their Daddy/boy.

So here’s my first stab at a blog post.

Let me start by talking about why I started Daddy in Charge.  There are 3 main reasons.

1. Although there are many groups and websites about both older/younger and dominant/submissive relationships, there were none that spoke to my specific interest in relationships between older dominant men and younger submissive men.  Since this was the case, I said to myself “self, there’s nothing else out there so do it yourself.”  I thought there’s be others interested and by the number of guys of all ages who’ve joined my various group, I was right.

2. I thought it could help me meet some younger guys who were looking for dominant Daddy.

3. Last, but maybe the most important reason, was to create a place where younger men who were looking for or fantasized about this type of relationship could go and discover there are many other men, both younger and older, who are also interested in this type of relationship.  I know it can be very difficult for young men in this situation, both in admitting it to themselves and even more so to others.  I know this because it describes me when I was younger and I know I'm not unique.

So what is a Daddy in Charge?  He is the older authority figure for a younger man.  He doesn’t necessarily even have to be a Daddy.  He could also be a coach, teacher, uncle, big brother, boss, master or have no label at all.  A Daddy is probably the most the most common authority figure and closest to what I see myself as so I chose that term.

A Daddy in Charge is dominant in bed.  He’s a total Top, he’s the one who does the fucking in bed, sometimes gentle, sometimes rough.  Sex for his boy is about pleasing Daddy’s dick with his mouth and his ass.  Daddy might like to eat his boy’s ass to get it ready to be fucked but a boy better keep his ass very clean.  If a boy cums or not, that’s up to Daddy.

A Daddy in Charge is also a disciplinarian.  He won’t hesitate to put his boy over his knee for a good spanking when needed.  A boy needs boundaries and rules but will break them at times so it’s Daddy’s job to remind him to stay within those boundaries.  If needed, other types of punishment can be used.  These can include other boyish punishments like corner time, mouth soaping, groundings or extra chores.  A boy won’t like it but accepts Daddy’s right to punish him as he knows it's for his own good.

Finally, but maybe most important, a Daddy in Charge always has his boys well being in mind.  Daddy might fuck him like a bitch but cuddles him in bed afterward.  Daddy might spank him until he’s crying real tears but will hold him close until the tears stop.  Daddy will take his boy out to dinner, to movies, the beach, an amusement park, all the fun things a Dad and boy can do together.  Daddy is always there when his boy needs him.